ZOOM.
3 months have gone by already?
Sorry about that...
A lot has gone on in the Fragoso household in 3 months, I can tell you that. Oliver is growing, learning, crawling (sort of), and getting cuter by the minute. The more his personality matures and shows, the more I love him. In a nutshell, he is a high-energy kid who is as happy as can be. He loves a crowd and won't sleep if he thinks there is anything he could possibly miss. (Joaquim and I have mastered his sleep techniques for now, but he tends to change his game frequently, so I'm not holding my breath.) He has two teeth that he shows off with lots of smiles and laughs, and it's anybody's guess as to when he will get more teeth!
Joaquim and I are pretty busy with Mr. Oliver, especially now as he army-crawls after cords in the corners, remote controls, and any shoe or sandal he can spot. But in addition, we managed to take a trip to Memphis in March, and we get out every once in a while on our own. :) We are trying to phase in some more activities, like small group and choir, and more intentional time with family and friends.
You know, I am finding that since Oliver was born, we have been taking small steps in adjusting to our new life as a bigger family. For instance, right after he was born, it was an accomplishment for me to be able to do my makeup. I remember wondering if I would ever be able to have a morning routine ever again where I could shower and get ready and have my coffee the way I always had. Little did I know the answer was yes...though my routine starts at 5:30am. It's not so bad now that the sun rises with me! Those winter months are painful, though. I now get to read my Bible every morning, dry my hair, I'm back to wearing (most of) my "normal", pre-Oliver, clothes. We find time to keep the house (fairly) clean, I cook, even bake sometimes, we grab time to exercise, I write in my journal more often, and we enjoy fueling our netflix watch instantly addictions.
This summer I am looking forward to a summer where I feel good, not swollen-footed and whaleish. Oh yes, we will go to the zoo, to the pool (often!), to Millennium Park and other cheap attractions downtown, walk for ice cream in downtown AH, you name it, we'll do it, and it will be grand.
As things fall into place and as I slowly add them to our routines, I continually see what is missing and what I need to improve at. Maybe I'll get those figured out in a few months and then there will be more. The point is, it's so fun to grow as a family and it really grows you as a person. Maybe eventually our housing will grow...we need more than one bedroom!
Monday, April 25, 2011
Monday, January 24, 2011
Time FLIES...and is better managed when you're a mom!
Joaquim's alarm goes off at 5:15am every morning. He's out of bed by 5:30 and I sluggishly follow him by 5:45. Then I hop in the shower as he makes coffee and enjoy some quiet time after he leaves for work, then hit the books myself. If you told me last year that our routine would look like that, I probably would have cried! But now I see the benefit of using every minute to the fullest.
When Oliver is awake he is the object of my full attention! He is a smiley smiley smiley boy, even when he is getting tired and reaching his limit. I can still make him smile and giggle even then, though it may be quickly followed by a "heeeeey pick me up" face and impatient whimper. When he wakes up in the morning or after a nap and starts fussing in his crib, I go into his room and cheerfully say "hey snuggle bug!" in my mommy sing songy voice that I am recently perfecting. Even as he rubs his eyes and struggles to roll over, he manages a smile at hearing that, and then any annoyance I may have at the fact that he only slept for 45 minutes or that I had JUST sat down evaporates.
Oliver is legitimately teething these past few days. He's been a drool-fountain for 3 months, I swear, but only now can I feel a little bump on his gum. We'll see when that thing cuts through and how much wailing and gnashing of...tooth...there will be in the process! I'm preparing myself to wake up some morning and see a little tooth and I'm already finding myself thinking, "how did he get so BIG?" and "he's just growing up too fast." I look at pictures of him when he was a little sleepy baby and already miss it, even though he's cuter and so fun these days.
He's so responsive to his mommy and daddy and turns in our direction whenever we suddenly talk. He will respond to his name, if not too engrossed in a toy, and smiles alllll the time, especially for his dad. Joaquim can make him laugh like no one else can! We just love that giggle.
For now he's still nursing exclusively, but in a week or two we will be starting to introduce some solid foods and I am excited but also a little apprehensive. Will he like it? Will I miss nursing him as much? (I think so!) And I hope those sweet potatoes, avocados, apples, bananas, and that yummy rice cereal I am planning on bringing to the table soon don't wreak havoc with his digestive system! Oh, the worries of new moms...
Yes, we can't believe time is passing so quickly. He will be 6 months old on February 9th and he is already wearing some 9 month clothing. Crawling is probably in our near future (as may be an area rug!) and bibs will be mom's new best friend. In all of our loving attention and care for Oliver, I am learning how to take time for myself and to spend time in God's word as well. It's so much more gratifying to read a chapter or two of a book or bake some yummy cookies when I know that I only have an hour or two to myself. I rarely lose myself in dumb facebook statuses or watching tv anymore, and often wonder what in the world we did with our time before Oliver was born. My mom told me the best thing anyone told her when she was expecting me was that kids make our lives richer and fuller. And I am now seeing that is 100% true. Sometimes I feel frazzled, though not that often, thankfully, but mostly I feel productive and alive. I catch myself often and remember that my two biggest desires were to be a wife and a mother and...I am both of those things. When did that happen??
And p.s. it's WONDERFUL!
When Oliver is awake he is the object of my full attention! He is a smiley smiley smiley boy, even when he is getting tired and reaching his limit. I can still make him smile and giggle even then, though it may be quickly followed by a "heeeeey pick me up" face and impatient whimper. When he wakes up in the morning or after a nap and starts fussing in his crib, I go into his room and cheerfully say "hey snuggle bug!" in my mommy sing songy voice that I am recently perfecting. Even as he rubs his eyes and struggles to roll over, he manages a smile at hearing that, and then any annoyance I may have at the fact that he only slept for 45 minutes or that I had JUST sat down evaporates.
Oliver is legitimately teething these past few days. He's been a drool-fountain for 3 months, I swear, but only now can I feel a little bump on his gum. We'll see when that thing cuts through and how much wailing and gnashing of...tooth...there will be in the process! I'm preparing myself to wake up some morning and see a little tooth and I'm already finding myself thinking, "how did he get so BIG?" and "he's just growing up too fast." I look at pictures of him when he was a little sleepy baby and already miss it, even though he's cuter and so fun these days.
He's so responsive to his mommy and daddy and turns in our direction whenever we suddenly talk. He will respond to his name, if not too engrossed in a toy, and smiles alllll the time, especially for his dad. Joaquim can make him laugh like no one else can! We just love that giggle.
For now he's still nursing exclusively, but in a week or two we will be starting to introduce some solid foods and I am excited but also a little apprehensive. Will he like it? Will I miss nursing him as much? (I think so!) And I hope those sweet potatoes, avocados, apples, bananas, and that yummy rice cereal I am planning on bringing to the table soon don't wreak havoc with his digestive system! Oh, the worries of new moms...
Yes, we can't believe time is passing so quickly. He will be 6 months old on February 9th and he is already wearing some 9 month clothing. Crawling is probably in our near future (as may be an area rug!) and bibs will be mom's new best friend. In all of our loving attention and care for Oliver, I am learning how to take time for myself and to spend time in God's word as well. It's so much more gratifying to read a chapter or two of a book or bake some yummy cookies when I know that I only have an hour or two to myself. I rarely lose myself in dumb facebook statuses or watching tv anymore, and often wonder what in the world we did with our time before Oliver was born. My mom told me the best thing anyone told her when she was expecting me was that kids make our lives richer and fuller. And I am now seeing that is 100% true. Sometimes I feel frazzled, though not that often, thankfully, but mostly I feel productive and alive. I catch myself often and remember that my two biggest desires were to be a wife and a mother and...I am both of those things. When did that happen??
And p.s. it's WONDERFUL!
Tuesday, January 11, 2011
2010 - God's Tangible Blessings
One of my goals this year is to better document our life. Journals are such a treasure in counting our blessings, as I saw in part this past year, and I want to share it with you all who are reading! This year as I have been examining and remembering all that God did for us in 2010, I just can't even believe it. He is AMAZING, and seriously took care of us in very real ways last year. You may have seen bits and pieces of it, but it's a pretty impressive spread when all together, so allow me to recount...
We started off the new year knowing that there would be a LOT of challenges and unknowns. We discovered that I was pregnant on December 19th of 2009, and as I may have mentioned before, I was totally freaked out. I, in my worried little way, didn't think we were prepared to have a baby. I thought we would have a plan, be more financially stable, have a bigger home, have two cars and two jobs. You know, like "everyone else". We had talked about when we wanted to have kids and we decided to be open to that any time after our one year anniversary. (We ended up celebrating one year of marriage with a 4 week old baby!) So, discovering that I was pregnant after only 3 months of marriage was a shock to my planning, prepared mentality. I thought that we would be seen as irresponsible, that people would silently say, "shame on them for having a baby when they can barely take care of themselves." This was a large part of why I wanted to wait a few weeks to tell friends and family. To be honest, I was ashamed, though I now see how Oliver is NOTHING but a joy and has brought showers of blessings to us.
Anyway, I digress. Joaquim's job search was only just beginning as he received his green card within a few days of our seeing those two pink lines on a little strip telling us that there was a tiny life inside of me. He didn't end up getting a job until June, so we had six months of some real penny pinching. Every month we would carefully plan our budget, and when we got down to all of our bills and necessities and then looked at our income, we consistently saw that we'd go in the negative. Quite simply, we were consistently making less than we NEEDED to spend. Miracle number 1 is that we never went into ANY debt or had to use money from our meager savings during those months. Sure, we were frugal, but month after month we spent a few hundred dollars more than we made, and yet always had enough in our checking account. It can't be explained except by God's miraculous provision. We have proof in spreadsheets if you want to see!
God also provided little jobs for Joaquim for the first 6 months of the year. He preached twice at a small church just west of Rockford, and that was a cool story of little connections. They paid very little, but it was something. In April, through another connection, he got a little job translating a cell phone operating system and manual. Anyone out there who is using a Dell windows phone, Joaquim edited the Portuguese version! That paid more than we were expecting, which was a fun surprise and ended up covering our first doctor payment, which was something that Joaquim was really pleased to be able to do.
Then there was the question of maternity clothes. Pregnant women need a whole new wardrobe! Not cheap. Well, it was cheap for me because I bought maybe 5 items of clothing throughout my whole pregnancy and spent MAYBE $100 total. WONDERFUL friends and family just kept giving me cute clothes, left and right. That burden was totally lifted from our shoulders. One day, I was getting to the point where I needed to go out and get some clothes but I remembered the story of George Mueller, who never asked anyone for anything, just prayed for God to touch someone's heart to provide it. (My job is to ask people to make gifts to a non-profit, so I don't subscribe to this practice all the time! It just touched my heart for my personal life at that moment...) I prayed that God would provide me with some clothes, and the next day a friend emailed me saying that she and her husband felt they should buy me some maternity clothes. Wow! 2 others passed on some maternity jeans, and my mom gave me lots and lots of cute outfits for mothers day. Throughout my whole pregnancy, my best friend Janell pampered and spoiled me horribly, taking me out to eat a lot (boy, could I eat!) and giving me a gift certificate for a massage, giving me a big basket of morning sickness cures - ginger ale, saltines, etc. - and of course was my biggest clothing provider. She now spoils Oliver just as well. We love her!
Ok, I got a little stuck on clothes there. That was just too fun! Moving on...Joaquim's job has been SUCH a blessing. Not only does he bring in a paycheck, which is great, but he also now has insurance for his whole family, which was costing us a ton through my job...up to 25% of my paycheck. That's a fun story. He wrote on a satisfaction survey that he really would like to be hired full time as a permanent employee so that he could have benefits. HR felt bad for him, basically, and offered him the job. Nothing like asking directly, right? That was in mid-November, and I had until November 20th to go off of my insurance at work. PERFECT timing. When I told my HR that I wanted to drop off, she said "oh good, because I didn't have the heart to tell you that your rates were about to nearly double!" Wow. God's timing is perfect and He doesn't ever give us more than we can handle! Joaquim works in a warehouse, so he equips his ipod with lots of podcasts, audiobooks, and sermon series, and has been soaking up so much good teaching on God's word. I can see him growing in leaps and bounds! He hasn't yet had the opportunity to do any formal training or go to seminary, but He is taking every opportunity at church to take free classes and download every teaching he can get his hands on, listening to each one multiple times and gleaning more and more each time.
We started off the new year knowing that there would be a LOT of challenges and unknowns. We discovered that I was pregnant on December 19th of 2009, and as I may have mentioned before, I was totally freaked out. I, in my worried little way, didn't think we were prepared to have a baby. I thought we would have a plan, be more financially stable, have a bigger home, have two cars and two jobs. You know, like "everyone else". We had talked about when we wanted to have kids and we decided to be open to that any time after our one year anniversary. (We ended up celebrating one year of marriage with a 4 week old baby!) So, discovering that I was pregnant after only 3 months of marriage was a shock to my planning, prepared mentality. I thought that we would be seen as irresponsible, that people would silently say, "shame on them for having a baby when they can barely take care of themselves." This was a large part of why I wanted to wait a few weeks to tell friends and family. To be honest, I was ashamed, though I now see how Oliver is NOTHING but a joy and has brought showers of blessings to us.
Anyway, I digress. Joaquim's job search was only just beginning as he received his green card within a few days of our seeing those two pink lines on a little strip telling us that there was a tiny life inside of me. He didn't end up getting a job until June, so we had six months of some real penny pinching. Every month we would carefully plan our budget, and when we got down to all of our bills and necessities and then looked at our income, we consistently saw that we'd go in the negative. Quite simply, we were consistently making less than we NEEDED to spend. Miracle number 1 is that we never went into ANY debt or had to use money from our meager savings during those months. Sure, we were frugal, but month after month we spent a few hundred dollars more than we made, and yet always had enough in our checking account. It can't be explained except by God's miraculous provision. We have proof in spreadsheets if you want to see!
God also provided little jobs for Joaquim for the first 6 months of the year. He preached twice at a small church just west of Rockford, and that was a cool story of little connections. They paid very little, but it was something. In April, through another connection, he got a little job translating a cell phone operating system and manual. Anyone out there who is using a Dell windows phone, Joaquim edited the Portuguese version! That paid more than we were expecting, which was a fun surprise and ended up covering our first doctor payment, which was something that Joaquim was really pleased to be able to do.
Then there was the question of maternity clothes. Pregnant women need a whole new wardrobe! Not cheap. Well, it was cheap for me because I bought maybe 5 items of clothing throughout my whole pregnancy and spent MAYBE $100 total. WONDERFUL friends and family just kept giving me cute clothes, left and right. That burden was totally lifted from our shoulders. One day, I was getting to the point where I needed to go out and get some clothes but I remembered the story of George Mueller, who never asked anyone for anything, just prayed for God to touch someone's heart to provide it. (My job is to ask people to make gifts to a non-profit, so I don't subscribe to this practice all the time! It just touched my heart for my personal life at that moment...) I prayed that God would provide me with some clothes, and the next day a friend emailed me saying that she and her husband felt they should buy me some maternity clothes. Wow! 2 others passed on some maternity jeans, and my mom gave me lots and lots of cute outfits for mothers day. Throughout my whole pregnancy, my best friend Janell pampered and spoiled me horribly, taking me out to eat a lot (boy, could I eat!) and giving me a gift certificate for a massage, giving me a big basket of morning sickness cures - ginger ale, saltines, etc. - and of course was my biggest clothing provider. She now spoils Oliver just as well. We love her!
Ok, I got a little stuck on clothes there. That was just too fun! Moving on...Joaquim's job has been SUCH a blessing. Not only does he bring in a paycheck, which is great, but he also now has insurance for his whole family, which was costing us a ton through my job...up to 25% of my paycheck. That's a fun story. He wrote on a satisfaction survey that he really would like to be hired full time as a permanent employee so that he could have benefits. HR felt bad for him, basically, and offered him the job. Nothing like asking directly, right? That was in mid-November, and I had until November 20th to go off of my insurance at work. PERFECT timing. When I told my HR that I wanted to drop off, she said "oh good, because I didn't have the heart to tell you that your rates were about to nearly double!" Wow. God's timing is perfect and He doesn't ever give us more than we can handle! Joaquim works in a warehouse, so he equips his ipod with lots of podcasts, audiobooks, and sermon series, and has been soaking up so much good teaching on God's word. I can see him growing in leaps and bounds! He hasn't yet had the opportunity to do any formal training or go to seminary, but He is taking every opportunity at church to take free classes and download every teaching he can get his hands on, listening to each one multiple times and gleaning more and more each time.
Now, a sad but redeemed story: our car situation. We knew starting out in 2010 that we needed a second car. But we didn't have the money for a down payment or monthly payments or to just pay cash for a good used car. That basically left us with no options. We borrowed my parents minivan for a few weeks when Joaquim first started working a temporary painting job, and we were hot on the search for a very used, but ok car that we could drive for a year or two. You can probably find the whole story in older posts, but...it was bad. We spent a couple thousand on a total piece of junk and we have not been able to resurrect it since. We exhausted all our chances and connections, and there were many, and just couldn't get it fixed up. Now it sits in our parking lot with a dead battery, whoops. Well...God wasn't done with that situation (and perhaps still isnt'!) and on NEW YEARS EVE, He provided. My mom called and said that my grandpa mentioned that we could have their minivan since they were trying to sell it and didn't realize we really could use it. So, BAM, we suddenly own a minivan in good condition, no strings attached, just had to pay for the title transfer. Wow. Blessed our socks off. Anyone want our "junker"? We're going to try and sell it for a REASONABLE price considering the repairs needed and if we're not successful we'll just give it away to get it off our hands. It's kind of a sore spot...
By far, the biggest blessing of the year BY FAR was our precious baby boy. He is healthy, happy, energetic, and such a stinker who totally keeps us on our toes. He is an endless source of joy, constantly making us smile and laugh, and seems to pull us back to reality with his toothless grins. We love him more than we could have ever imagined. And I see now that being in a difficult situation when we first found out we were expecting him was the opportunity of a lifetime to see God's provision and miracles. We probably would have had a very easy and stress free year without our precious Oliver. Looking back, I say that would have been pretty boring and just no fun at all.
That brings us to 2011. We have no idea what is to come! Big things...and God is GOOD and hasn't failed us yet!
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